Find clarity when you feel torn between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming
One-to-one Clarity Sessions to help you move forward without betraying yourself — and begin living the story that actually feels true.
This work often resonates with creatives, diasporic folks, and thoughtful people navigating identity shifts, inherited expectations, or moments of transition.
Many of us are living inside stories we didn’t choose consciously — shaped by family, culture, or survival.
Clarity Sessions help you notice those stories, work with the parts of you that are still loyal to them, and begin living from what actually feels true to you now.
I call this work storyliving ~
paying attention to the stories already directing your choices, emotions, and sense of self — and choosing to live into stories that are truer, more you, and more alive.
“Even when I could barely hold myself together, it never felt like Chrislyn was the only one holding me. It always felt like we were holding me together.”
— Tian Qing Yen
Why Clarity Feels Hard
When you feel stuck, it’s rarely because you don’t know enough.
More often, it’s because different parts of you are pulling in different directions —
each one loyally protecting something that matters to you (or to those who came before you).
Inside, this tug-of-war can look like…
a part that longs for freedom or expression 🚀
a part that fears loss, rejection, or abandonment 🙈
a part that learned early on what’s “normal” or “safe” 🫡
or it can sound like…
“Why do I feel torn between so many options?”
“Why can’t I decide, even when I get what’s going on?”
“Why does one side of me want to keep going, while another wants to run away?”
or it can feel like…
😵💫 restlessness, exhaustion, insomnia 😵
😡 resentment, resistance, avoidance 😶🌫️
🤯 overthinking, anxiety, panic 😱
Clarity doesn’t come from forcing one voice to win.
It comes from slowing down long enough to listen —
with curiosity instead of pressure,
with compassion instead of judgment.
When your inner voices feel seen and understood
your decisions come from alignment —
because all of you is finally a “yes”
to move in the same direction.
Holding You With You
What Happens in a Clarity Session
Held for 60-90 minutes on Zoom, Clarity Sessions offer a steady, collaborative space to slow things down and listen carefully to the swirl of voices inside you.
🧭 We orient to what matters right now
We begin with what feels most alive or stuck — a decision, tension, or question you’ve been circling. No need to arrive with more. We’ll ease in together.
👂 We listen for the different voices involved
At your pace, we gently notice the parts of you that want different things or carry different concerns. Rather than forcing clarity, we get curious:
What is each part protecting or longing for?
What history or burden might it be holding?
What gifts might it be offering you?
🌼 We integrate toward honest next steps
As the internal storm settles, we translate what’s emerged into an actionable decision, a clear reframe, or a grounded next step — one that feels aligned with the story you want to live now.
Leave with clarity you can trust — because it comes from within you, not external pressure or performance.
After you submit, I’ll be in touch within 1-2 days to confirm alignment and next steps.
This is for you if…
🔆 You feel confused inside and want to live life without betraying what matters to you
🔆 You sense that you’re living inside stories you didn’t fully choose, and you’re ready to relate to them differently
🔆 You understand personal growth in theory, but want to actually live what you know
🔆 You carry grief, unease, or resentment that hasn’t shifted
🔆 You’re willing to slow down, listen inward, and stay with complexity and discomfort
🔆 You want clarity rooted in integration, not pressure or performance
This is not a good fit if…
🚨 You’re looking for quick advice or someone to tell you what to do
🚨 You’re seeking ongoing emotional caretaking or external validation
🚨 You want to bypass difficult emotions or rush to get certainty at any cost
🚨 You’re not open to exploring your inner world or working with different parts of yourself
🚨 You’re seeking crisis support or clinical therapy
What people often emerge with
🌼 Relief from mental looping and internal conflict
🌼 Language for what they want that feels honest and aligned
🌼 A clearer sense of what’s actually theirs to carry — and what isn’t
🌼 Grounded next steps they trust, even if it’s still tender or evolving
🌼 Ease and lightness of heart, warmed with compassion for their parts
{ in their own words }
“What I thought would be hard – sitting with myself and revisiting triggering memories – felt natural and effortless because of how Chrislyn held the space: soft, comforting, and deeply compassionate.
When the session ended, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, as if my soul had been re-energized.
I have more clarity and peace about where I want to go. I give myself more grace because I understand my parts. Now I know how to unearth beliefs passed down over generations and begin to create new pathways for future kin.”
— Keilana Mokulehua
"I grew up with a profound sense that ‘I cannot be understood – because nobody sees everything that I am.’
Yet here, you witness my full, integrated self: the powerful me, the miserable me, the creative me.
And that in itself is the best gift: If I know I can be me with you, then I can be me with anybody.”
— T.Q. Yen
“As a fellow facilitator, being in Chrislyn’s sessions feels like getting a front-row seat to a masterclass in facilitation.
A remarkable blend of warmth and precision, Chrislyn has a rare gift for naturally weaving complexity into coherence – balancing divergent voices, acknowledging tension without dramatizing it, and helping everyone feel truly welcomed and heard.
Her presence makes complexity feel not only manageable, but meaningful. It’s a joy to witness her craft in action.”
— Erika G. Bertling
What if you stayed present with your unfolding long enough for clarity to emerge?
Who I Am + How I Hold You
hey, I’m Chrislyn 🦋
Much of my life has unfolded in the “in-between.” I know what it’s like to hold multiple truths at once, and the quiet exhaustion that comes from trying to make your multitudes fit into stories that were never quite yours.
Over time, I’ve learned that clarity doesn’t come from choosing one part of yourself over another.
It comes from staying present long enough to listen to what’s pulling, what’s protecting, and what’s longing to be honored.
This understanding shapes how I hold space. I won’t rush you toward answers or settle for what’s convenient.
I bring steady presence, careful listening, and deep respect for the wisdom already within you — especially the parts that’ve helped you survive, stay safe, and belong.
🔆 Investment 🔆
Clarity Sessions are offered using a tiered, self-selecting contribution model, rooted in trust and mutual care.
Sessions are 60-90 minutes, with contributions typically ranging from $100–250, depending on your resourcing and capacity.
You’re welcome to choose the level that feels most workable for you right now. Details are shared after we’ve connected and confirmed fit.
Ready when you are.
After you submit, I’ll be in touch within 1-2 days to confirm alignment and next steps.